Coz,''Length of my skirt is directly proportional to the possibility of me being a Virgin''?

People,
There are actually a lot of things,that you just don't understand .
If rape was about how revealing their clothes were, rape rates would quadruple during the summer.BUT THEY DON'T !
If rape was about how much sex someone had in the past,then virgins wouldn't get raped.BUT THEY DO!
If rape was about how attractive a person was by conventional standards ,then only thin,white ,abled people would get raped. BUT THEY DON'T
If rape was about how much they drank,then sober people wouldn't get raped.BUT THEY DO!

''Rape is not the victims fault''!!!

Its just some goddamn people blaming the victims for being raped feeds into the culture of women not reporting because women are afraid that they'd be blamed for what happened to them and be labelled as being 'impure'.Why it is that women have to be fighting back during the rape and if she didn't,it means that she wanted it ?!!
Yes,Rape is one of the most terrible crimes on earth,and it happens every few minutes.The problem with groups who deal with rape is that they try to educate women about how to 'defend themselves'.What really needs to be done is teaching men not to rape and to add a bit ,rape is the only crime ,where victim becomes the accused !!!

Now what are the most stupid statements given by our so called political leaders on rape-

1. Mamta Banerjee,CM,West Bengal- ''Rape cases are on a rise in the country because men and women interact with each other more freely now ''.    [Please mam,we are here waiting for you to ban coed schools and colleges,you can also divide Bengal into two parts 'he' and 'she']
2. Dharamvir Goyat,Haryana Pradesh Congress committee member-''90% rapes are consensual''    [You've seriously nailed it Sir !Common lets just end all the Drama and stop worrying at all about rapes ]
3. Abu Azmi,Samajwadi part leader on 2012 Delhi Gang rape-''What is the need for roaming at night with men who are not relatives?This should be stopped''    [Actually,why not chain women in the evening.No movement ,No roaming out!]
4. Om prakash Chautala,former chief minister,Haryana-''Girls should be married at the age of 16,so that they have their husbands for their sexual needs & they don't need to go elsewhere.This way rapes will not occur''    [Oh man ,so? A girl gets raped because she has sexual needs?You are from a different planet altogether sir!]
5. Sushil Kumar Shinde,Minister of Home Affairs on 2012 Delhi gang rape-''This kind of rape should not occur''   [And other kinds of rapes are allowed?]

Shameful enough!!No words.

So in the world's largest democracy,the best culture on earth,women can get raped,but not protest against a rape,no place for women at all?

Politicians like these and republic like us?We also blame society don't we? But are we not society?

I am totally against a mindset that first makes me a victim and then blames me for what was done to me, I am against policies created solely to control or humble me.

   ( The government will pay money to compensate rape victims.What is your fee?If you are raped,what will be your fee? )

I am against social conditioning that says feminine =weak /bad /dirty /wrong.

I am against toxic girl hate.(Girl-on-girl hate is such a huge issue in schools ,at the workplace and/or online.Please spread some girl love )

I am against the idea that its okay to touch/hurt/rape/shame/control my body because it is considered public property,

Against harmful gendered politics disguised as ''protection'' (Stop it okay!We are too fed up)

Against defining people by an outdated gender binary and /or their genitals.

Media totally objectifies women,& this objectification of women is what society has proven they want to see in entertainment media.

Yes,no doubt media objectifies women,the video songs we see now show the girls being used as a prop.            

      ''Tota hi Tota''    ''Ladkiyon ka buffet'' ( Seriously? :/  & obviously this gives rise to sexism:) 

Why can't we avoid using language that objectifies or degrades women?

Why can't we speak if we hear someone  else making an offensive joke or trivializing rape?

Or at least we can just let survivors know that it is not their fault and hold abusers accountable for their actions;do not let them make excuses like blaming the victim,alcohol,or drugs for their behavior.

We believe that men have the capacity to be responsible for his actions and think rationally.

We can be an active bystander ,communicate with sexual partners and do not assume consent,we should be respectful of other's physical space even in casual situations.

What we don't have to do is

•  blaming the victims (that she asked for it!)
• Trivializing sexual assault (that Boys will be Boys'')
• Tolerance of sexual harassment ( Sadly we still don't have an environment where when a women very clearly says No,its a No. )
• Defining ''Manhood'' as dominant and sexually aggressive & defining ''Womanhood'' as submissive and sexually passive.
• Teaching women to avoid getting raped

And lastly, I am against a world view that has no place for growth ,change ,art,freedom or revolution.

So I hereby declare 2017 ''The year of Fuck That Shit''.No more putting up with bullshit from Anyone because I deserve better than Bullshit.

No more biting my tongue to appease others.No more being a doormat

''I will Speak my Truth ''.

SOURCES:

https://www.youngisthan.in/india/16-most-stupid-statements-given-by-our-leaders-on-rape/6275
http://www.southernct.edu/sexual-misconduct/facts.html

How can people make it through life without a sister????

If I told you this was only gonna hurt

If I warned you that the fire’s gonna burn

Would you walk in? Would you let me do it first?

Do it all in the name of love

Would you let me lead you even when you’re blind?

In the darkness, in the middle of the night

In the silence , when there’s no one by your side

Would you call in the name of love?     

If I told you we could bathe in all the lights

Would you rise up, come and meet me in the sky?

WOULD YOU TRUST ME WHEN YOU’RE JUMPING FROM THE HEIGHTS?

WOULD YOU FALL IN THE NAME OF LOVE?

When there’s madness ,when there’s poison in your head

When the sadness leaves you broken in your bed

I will hold you in the depths of your despair

And it’s all in the name of love….

Every single learning of my life has been possible because of you   even though having a younger sister is equivalent  to suiciding everyday.

How I define my sister …..Very greatly goes like this ….

Yes you are a jerk, bit of nuts in your own mind ,arrogant sometimes, buffoon, bully (yah in my case), truthful, outspoken, pompous ,incompetent ,idiot, boisterous, showoff (typical one), confident, cunning, brash, comical, clown, blowhard, bombastic entertainer, ridiculous, mouthy, selfish, obnoxious, blunt, crazy UNQUALIFIED dumbass.

But this is the day, so I have to confess that…ummm. (I know its bit kind of spooky for me to tell you things which are kind of emotional, and that too when you don’t belong to that genre.

Still bear with me…

There are some people in the world whom you just want to love, and love, and keep on loving till the end of the world no matter what.. Even if they disgust, blabber shit, sometimes irritate  you.( or always do so ).

It was your birth day when I realized that I was going to have someone special with me for the rest of my life ( actually someone to play with), though I was very young at that time, I still can’t forget that size of yours, small tiny creature you were with hands wobbling all around your cute face, your red cheeks with a bubbly sunken smile, twinkling fairy like eyes, your teddy bear like hair, and obviously you were wrapped in that cream color blanket.

Everyone were surrounding you like, something auspicious happened on that day and I was there just gaming with a thought that why were you prettier than me? Nonetheless you grew up in front of my eyes ,slowly slowly like a small plant .I used to observe every inch of your feet, that how it grew into one inch larger ,days moved, nights sunk in, a baby to a toddler to a child and then a teenager, adulthood is yet to come.

Your first day at school, began with endless cries and sobbing for the 1^st  2 hours, I remember

The day of raksha bandhan when we both tied Rakhis to each other’s hands because we dont have any brother in our family, I remember

Our little fights which made me angry and made you cry, I remember

Our shocking moments seeing the red marks at our report cards, I remember

Thoughts  of her sharing of half piece of roti with me, her hiding of our secrets from everybody, skidding to my side even after knowing the consequences, not eating when I am not eating, telling lies for me, not going out without me, not opening the packet of chips without me, new dress brought for her and worn by me, sharing things in her own way (a small toffee too), me doing everything that made me happy and her, tired..her handling my mood swings that included throwing things with much force, shouting like hell, criticizing, yelling at the top of my voice, shutting door in front of her face, ..her fighting with friends ,relatives for me …giving my interests  first priority, making my mood work, managing my time table, scolding me for being such an ass, telling me that I am the most beautiful girl alive, helping in building my self confidence, me scolding her for not doing my work, insulting her in front of family, friends , not preferring her choices, making her do the things the way I want…….I remember, I remember all.

Yes I am realizing how bad I am, but want you to forgive me as always.

Day by day, you made me feel as if you were the elder one and I was the younger one with our roles exchanged somehow. The elder one always makes you confident about everything, stuffs guts in your brains, and that’s what you did to me, rather than me doing it to you.

There came some particular moments when time came to me as a gushing stream, but you made that flood stop! Putting barriers all around me?

You were there to protect me from all sides, a savior, a blessing, for which I was destined.

There was a time when I felt that I was left with my own shadow, which was following me to the weirdest of places, own soul was pounding at me, I thought of my voice being unheard .I wanted to stand straight but couldn’t as if my legs had no life left, I wanted to sleep but cried endlessly, without looking at my face I could assume that how terrible I was looking. This went on until the day I decided to back off, to Quit.

She then holding my hand made me understand and told me that ‘’the situation where you’re standing right now, compels you to quit , just quit the goddamn situation in which you’re  trapped.’’

She made me stand in front of her and said ‘’don’t you cry for a stupid past that didn’t have future. Cry, if you actually realized where you went wrong, and gain from the experience.’’

No one, but you made me realize my worth, and your worth too..

Thank you for being there always, when I needed you. I didn’t need to convey my feelings ever to you, you took my problems as they were your problems and tried to figure out solutions to every one of them,

Cheers to your upcoming future, filled with joy, precious moments, gifts from life, more wealth and health

Cheers to your growing age, puberty, mood swings, epitome beauty, empowering attitude, beautiful dreams, long desires

Cheers to us, for the joyous moments we’ve lived and the upcoming moments which are still yet to come.

Cheers to life, Cheers to your 13^th birthday.

Story of my life!

So here i am!
Neva thought of starting a blog really but had thoughts running round my mind convinced me to finally start it coz juz by sitting idol and scratching ur bums is naa goin to help uh young lady.
ok! This Saturday am 18 en Incredible en hell yah am so happy.  Basically am naa a trained or professional or experienced or a marvelous writer so if u find eny flaws in my writing , bear with me dude, coz I Don no how to write enything tht does not contain mistakes or errors obviously man coz am a bloody human. I appreciate immature writers who donot give spelling mistakes,gramatical errors in their writings, I salute u guys honestly.

So I want to make it clear tht am a teenager attending my high school from which I'll b freed next year (haha darn exited) is Enyone else exited ? Ahaan? Ok neva mind bt am a totally stupid person as I alwayz do things which certainly my parents Don admire bt my frens do! XD.

1. Am a lazy brat. My parents keep shouting at the top of their voices tht ' betu ur sleeping for more Dan 8 hrs, even the polar bears do not sleep tht much,.just get up u stupid idiot fellow and clean ur room'.thts Ryt.
2.I Don keep my room clean, thts the biggest problem tht my moother is facing Ryt now .'u stupid donkey if U've decided tht u will stay in this bloody rum full of junkyard den stay, this rum luks like bloody store house spoilt n smelly'.neighbours ask me what was tht ?,was it a cyclone? I tell dem no it ws not a cyclone it is betu 's rum, no need to worry!

'whaaaa the hell man ? Why can't parents juz sit quite and do there work? U juz tell me to do the dishes or wash my baniyanazz and soksaaz bt Don tell me to clean up my rum.
3.i take long showers' Ohhhhhhhhh maaai gaaad betu wat the hell ur doing ? Ur bloody taking a shower or playing holi?U no Wat ?Bloody becoz of uh oocean water is detoriating. Once their lived nemo and little mermaid, they all died because u taking bath . U wait en see ok neighbours will come and  ask about the motor tht ohh gupta ji motor phirse phuk gai?'             "dam man mom plzz juz let me take my shower den u can go on wid my uncle uunt'ies talks and wat the hell man ok no no tell me is tht my home or my neighbours bathroom? I blody own tht bathroom ok, yeah thts ryt and I have my rRyt claimed upon my bathroom tiles, my washbasin and my freaking toilet and the blody water running in my taps ok! U Don ask about my motor or else ur water tank is also blown down.

4.i neva eva give my laundry on tym 

"'Dis stupid gal never gives the clothes to wash on tym  ? Wat the bloody hell is dis? Is dis a hotel? Come, eat, sleep? Or Iam ur maid? U can't even wash ur kacchis! Joosless lad I tell uh.and wen all clothes r done she's coming to me to give her dirty clothes! Wat the hell am I going to do wid dem not? Let papa come en beat ur head. Idiot""

Are mammi naa kar! Plzz. Why u shout at the top of ur voice en tell all of dese things to pappa. Ur never less en den pappa ' s turn comes. 

5. Iam neva listening to dem as alwayz I have these pakoda's in my motha ' s words (headphones) on my ears

'"Aaj Yeh Marr jaegi mere hatho! 

Betuuuuuuuuuuu. .............?

Betuuuuuuuuuuu....................? 

Betuuuuuuuuuuu? ........................?

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""Why the hell u Don listen to me ? Am shouting like hell en dis gal is not interested. U no Wat, no need of hanging these headphones around ur neck go en put tht stereo on ur head tht way u can listen to it very properly. "

Mammi thts so stupid ok wen u no tht am listening to the music en am neva going to answer den why the hell ur shouting at the top of ur voice Haan? Juz to break ur vocal cords? 

""Flying Chappal received""

Huhhhhhh. This is enough man I guess u understood the whole story of my life juz by reading these 5 pointers. I no its not juz me bt every child en their motha ' s r  facing the same prpoblmz.

suggestions to mums## u can bear these children, or in other words, u have TO, U HAVE TO bear ur child

suggestions to kids ## ENJOY LIKE HELL!!

Helicopter Parents

 Now u may have been thinking that why is this bizarre name given to parents?

Teens experience various or we can say all the problems in this world… XD, they face problems like study pressure, relationship issues, uncertainty about the future, family issues, depression etc.

You see there’s a key relating to every problem that a child faces and reasons are many..I am not here to discuss upon these problems but specially my issues that I have wid my own parents.

How many of uh feel that ur parents actually don’t understand uh?

94% of uh obviously? Thts ryt!

But I don’t feel the same, I actually am experiencing it.

As its my 12^th en have taken humanities stream and the subjects according to my interest en capability, have been doing well since last year en have confidence that I will excel this year too. My parents living well in an urban city, modern world which pronounces modern thoughts have their own views on what career options a child should decide his/her future. So I receive a full lecture from them that goes like this-

‘’ You know nothing about the world. Just have taken up a silly stream and studying the stupid things which u call subjects ,the things which people read every day in newspapers. What are you going to do in your future do you know that? People study science en subjects like commerce en what r u studying? World politics? Fine arts? Its going to do nothing. These subjects are fine when read in newspapers or when visited art galleries, but not of eny use when you have to decide your career .you are jus ruining your life nothing else. You want to end your life being a primary teacher? What would you do with a 15,000 salary? Making fool of yourself en others !’’

There goes my statement ;

‘’You are telling me to pick up streams like science en commerce en be some doctor or en engineer. Tell me one thing that why didn’t you took mathematics en became a mathematician? Why are you teaching literature in an university where people study these stupid subjects like world politics en fine arts?

If I have taken up a stream that goes with my interest and capability then YES, I’LL DO IT.

I have that much of confidence that I can carry these subjects with my best efforts. Your say is equally important in my life regarding my career or future, but if I’m taking up some decisions which I feel that it  will do good to me ,please jus trust me. Trust your values that are given to me since childhood that I will not go on the wrong path.’’

Here, stating my problem, I want to convey to  the parents (this time ,not the kids)  that right from the childhood, interest and talent of a child should be given high importance, it must be kept in mind that every child is different, every child is unique in his/her own way. If we force him to choose a stream against his interest, he may never be able to excel in life in addition he may get depressed en try to make other ways out of it,”

“The worst part of Indian families is that most parents want their children to become doctor and engineer and never ask them about their choice. What the hell?

Don’t we deserve to choose our career options? Our decisions equally values as yours. Sometimes as teens we may get wrong but it’s you parents who would guide us till end.

On top of that, they want us to score more than 90%.

We can eventually relate this to the depression and suicide rates that are highest in India as per a UN report.

There is a possibility that parents, who failed to fulfill their dreams, try to get them fulfilled through their children.

Nirmal Rishi, a noted theatre artist, said, “In our society, there is a trend of following others, including neighbors and relatives. To convince a child to take up medical or non-medical stream, parents often give examples of neighbor’s son. However, this trend has decreased in last few years but at there are still some people following the old path,”

And yes, how can we forget our dear relatives who have special free advice's to give.

It is my personal message to the sweat uncle, unties, maasi, mama, taya, paya that please keep these advices to yourselves. As your advice's or views do not matter in eny one’s life en it is a true fact .’DONT MIND’

Boss, Einstein is known for theoretical physics. If his parents would have told him to become a dancer then possibly there would have been no Einstein, no theory of relativity!

Speaking of our generation, renowned Indian author Mr. Chetan Bhagat was an investment banker till he found himself moving to his interest in writing. Now do we know him as a banker or a great novelist?

   

Our current Prime Minister Mr. Narendra Modi was a common man till he became our Prime Minister.

Their life, their struggles.

Now, Let there be my life and my struggles !

In last I would conclude it by answering my foremost question that helicopter parents (mainly termed in America) are those parents who do not give space to their children, do not give that much freedom to children which is required now these days. In a nutshell, it is not possible for a child to grow. For the overall development, mutual relationship between parents en kids has to happen and decisions of parents will always matter for a child and vica versa.

birthday's are so stressful !

Hey yah

Welcome to my blog

Am 18,i luv my mummy pappa,i don clean my rum ,i go to high school en piss my brainzz off...........thts all uh no bout meh.

So here's the thing tht last Saturday i turned the big 18 en trust me i was going to write my blog on tht day itself as my current title is on' birthdays' but i got so involved on tht day tht i thought maybe wud write it next day,en the next day became dis republic day!PROCRASTINATION' is in my veins u see.

En i'll be honest wid uh on dis topic tht we all no tht birthdays are exiting en you wait to feel special but in my opinion birthdays are sort of stressful and here's why?

There's so much pressure built in ur brainz .Its like ur expected to feel so much special on ur birthday but in reality ur going to have the exact same life except today you will have cake.

Every night before my birthday at 11:50 pm i'll be feeling hell anxious juz peeping at my phone counting the minutes like ok here we go,here we go en then when it hits 12:00

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NOTHING HAPPENS

and u already know in ur brainz tht you convinced yourself that the number of calls and texts you get is the symbol of how popular you are.You are stressed because you r JUDGING yourself.

You r checking your phone for no reason like ok may be i am not getting the signal or the network is low and ur going through a mental list in ur brainz tht( its 12;01 and she didn't call me,no worries i no she cant forget my birthday)( its 12:10  and he didn't call, damn man i want to slap him ,i mean how cn he forget my birthday)(Is it my birthday or am in dilemma ?) and den suddenly my phone beeps en i am like yaaah man en wat do i see tht it is an airtel text that YOU'RE RUNNING OUT OF DATA'
DAMN MAN,no body loves you !!! because here's the thing that it is 2016 and people no longer call each otha to wish happy birthday .You'll be lucky if you received a TEXT MESSAGE because what's going to happen is tht when i am going to login to my social website ,i will have 200 notifications of people and exact same messages reading tht 'HEY HAPPY BIRTHDAY' thnxx so much for the warm wishes also who the hell are uh ?'! Also if you're my close fren and you think its ok to wish me happy birthday on my wall in a C of 200 of all the basic people you're DUMB.Birthday's are wen u realize tht ur frenz do not no the effing thing bout uh.
Also birthdays set up unrealistic expectations coz on the day of you're birthday everyone treats you amazing,your boyfren/galfren is nice to uh ,they are way too cute,they don fight with you,your teacher wont pick on you(you don know the answer ,don worry its your birthday Timmy),your parents are not going to yell at you .Your day is G R E A T !
MUMMY- you have a good bday .Gud gal, you know i luv you ok happy bday. Don't worry about nothing.You such a gud gal.(thanxx mom i really appreciate tht ,honestly i luv uh too).
the moment the clock strikes 12:00
    ''Oye clean ur bloody room ok ,what you think you special,you think you bloody special?
    Oye shut up ,shut up ur face,you no what? i am not even going to let you finish.
    Even Fifth Harmony called that you're not even worth it .Tom Cruise waiting outside ,they want to shoot Mission Impossible 5 thts ryt. Story going to be cleaning your room.You think ur zodiac sign Aquarius haan?Your only sign 'dead end ahead' ok because this your future. Police outside asking everybody ok after the storm i said 'no no don worry.this only betu's room.Even dog ,cat they know ,they come close to your room,they run away .You know Apple called me thts ryt ,they want me to take picture of your face for new jooseless emoji.You so bloody dirty .You're supposed to have three windows ,you have 1.5 window.How u see anything but that's ok because that's still enough for you....................IDIOT''

But the point is that ur birthday is like one of those people who win Indian idol or some reality show or like tht.;
you are bloody special for the holy one day so wear ur boxers and look down bruhhh!!!!