Helicopter Parents

 Now u may have been thinking that why is this bizarre name given to parents?

Teens experience various or we can say all the problems in this world… XD, they face problems like study pressure, relationship issues, uncertainty about the future, family issues, depression etc.

You see there’s a key relating to every problem that a child faces and reasons are many..I am not here to discuss upon these problems but specially my issues that I have wid my own parents.

How many of uh feel that ur parents actually don’t understand uh?

94% of uh obviously? Thts ryt!

But I don’t feel the same, I actually am experiencing it.

As its my 12^th en have taken humanities stream and the subjects according to my interest en capability, have been doing well since last year en have confidence that I will excel this year too. My parents living well in an urban city, modern world which pronounces modern thoughts have their own views on what career options a child should decide his/her future. So I receive a full lecture from them that goes like this-

‘’ You know nothing about the world. Just have taken up a silly stream and studying the stupid things which u call subjects ,the things which people read every day in newspapers. What are you going to do in your future do you know that? People study science en subjects like commerce en what r u studying? World politics? Fine arts? Its going to do nothing. These subjects are fine when read in newspapers or when visited art galleries, but not of eny use when you have to decide your career .you are jus ruining your life nothing else. You want to end your life being a primary teacher? What would you do with a 15,000 salary? Making fool of yourself en others !’’

There goes my statement ;

‘’You are telling me to pick up streams like science en commerce en be some doctor or en engineer. Tell me one thing that why didn’t you took mathematics en became a mathematician? Why are you teaching literature in an university where people study these stupid subjects like world politics en fine arts?

If I have taken up a stream that goes with my interest and capability then YES, I’LL DO IT.

I have that much of confidence that I can carry these subjects with my best efforts. Your say is equally important in my life regarding my career or future, but if I’m taking up some decisions which I feel that it  will do good to me ,please jus trust me. Trust your values that are given to me since childhood that I will not go on the wrong path.’’

Here, stating my problem, I want to convey to  the parents (this time ,not the kids)  that right from the childhood, interest and talent of a child should be given high importance, it must be kept in mind that every child is different, every child is unique in his/her own way. If we force him to choose a stream against his interest, he may never be able to excel in life in addition he may get depressed en try to make other ways out of it,”

“The worst part of Indian families is that most parents want their children to become doctor and engineer and never ask them about their choice. What the hell?

Don’t we deserve to choose our career options? Our decisions equally values as yours. Sometimes as teens we may get wrong but it’s you parents who would guide us till end.

On top of that, they want us to score more than 90%.

We can eventually relate this to the depression and suicide rates that are highest in India as per a UN report.

There is a possibility that parents, who failed to fulfill their dreams, try to get them fulfilled through their children.

Nirmal Rishi, a noted theatre artist, said, “In our society, there is a trend of following others, including neighbors and relatives. To convince a child to take up medical or non-medical stream, parents often give examples of neighbor’s son. However, this trend has decreased in last few years but at there are still some people following the old path,”

And yes, how can we forget our dear relatives who have special free advice's to give.

It is my personal message to the sweat uncle, unties, maasi, mama, taya, paya that please keep these advices to yourselves. As your advice's or views do not matter in eny one’s life en it is a true fact .’DONT MIND’

Boss, Einstein is known for theoretical physics. If his parents would have told him to become a dancer then possibly there would have been no Einstein, no theory of relativity!

Speaking of our generation, renowned Indian author Mr. Chetan Bhagat was an investment banker till he found himself moving to his interest in writing. Now do we know him as a banker or a great novelist?

   

Our current Prime Minister Mr. Narendra Modi was a common man till he became our Prime Minister.

Their life, their struggles.

Now, Let there be my life and my struggles !

In last I would conclude it by answering my foremost question that helicopter parents (mainly termed in America) are those parents who do not give space to their children, do not give that much freedom to children which is required now these days. In a nutshell, it is not possible for a child to grow. For the overall development, mutual relationship between parents en kids has to happen and decisions of parents will always matter for a child and vica versa.